Looking Back

What one event, big or small, are you going to tell your grandchildren about?
Trump getting impeached? Lol I dunno.

If you had to describe your 2019 in 3 words, what would they be?
Major. Growing. Pains.

What new things did you discover about yourself?
I respond much more to external expectations than internal. Therefore external accountability is essential for accomplishing any of my goals.

Which of your personal qualities turned out to be the most helpful this year?
The ability to compartmentalize and get shit done while things were metaphorically burning down around me.

Who was your number one go-to person that you could always rely on?
A toss-up between my mom friends Kate and Heather. And my therapist, per usual.

Which new skills did you learn?
Recording a podcast!

What, or who, are you most thankful for?
Truth and the ability to see it.

If someone wrote a book about your life in 2019, what kind of genre would it be?
Surrealism with a dash of existential angst.

Which mental block(s) did you overcome?
I figured out that I need external accountability in order to meet internal goals.

What 5 people did you most enjoy spending time with?
My freelance pal Kate through Google Hangouts, my mom friend Heather in real life while carting our children around, our neighbors who are framily, and kiddo and spouso

How did your relationship to your family evolve?
I’m trying to give kiddo space to become his own person, even though it is tempting to become a tyrant when faced with a threenager tantrum. Spouso and I have gotten onto the same page with some important things, which is nice.

What book or movie affected your life in a profound way?
Always Be My Maybe! The first romcom I’ve ever seen starring Asian Americans but not about being Asian American.

What little things did you most enjoy during your day-to-day life?
Exercising, cooking, making excessively detailed plans that I will not follow.

What cool things did you create this year?
Client websites, rebranding my own website/business, a podcast, and I had a hand in bringing 100+ articles to life at Mochi magazine.

What was your most common mental state this year?

Was there anything you did for the very first time in your life this year?
Maybe not this year.

What was your favorite moment spent with your friends?
My friend Heather and I went to an arts festival with no spouses or children.

What major goal did you lay the foundations for?
Building my platform as an Asian American creative and entrepreneur.

Which worries turned out to be completely unnecessary?
Whether kiddo would adjust to his new afternoon preschool program. (Like a champ!)

What experience would you love to do all over again?
My two-day excursion for Our Whole Lives training. I got to sleep in a hotel by myself, learn about values- and evidence-based sexuality education, eat meals with other adults and by myself, and watch To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before.

How did your overall outlook on life evolve?
I am more focused and fulfilled in my work now that I’ve found my niche.

What one thing would you do differently and why?
I’d probably be more insistent on being heard and do less accommodating when it comes to people pushing on/just plain violating my boundaries.

What do you deserve a pat on the back for?
Surviving 3 months of no naptime and 18 days of solo parenting.

What activities made you lose track of time?
Um, various silly mobile games that I’m too embarrassed to name.

What new habits did you cultivate?
I started tracking my work time and did that fairly thoroughly for about six months. It was helpful to see where my time goes so I could set better project rates and set up a decent work routine for the week.

What advice would you give your early-2019 self if you could?
Stand your ground. The changes you want are worth fighting for.

Did any parts of your self or your life do a complete 180 this year?
This year I shifted my business focus to serving Asian American creatives and entrepreneurs and that mission has really stuck. I’m…marginally better at self maintenance?


What single achievement are you most proud of?
Launching a podcast, running a pricing workshop, and planning a business website accelerator in 12 weeks.

What was the best news you received?
That there was a spot open in an afternoon preschool program!

What was your favorite place that you visited in 2019?
New York City. I wouldn’t want to live there but it was fun to visit.

What purchase turned out to be the best decision ever?
My USB podcasting mic makes it easy to record good quality episodes from home.

What or who had the biggest positive impact on your life this year?
A toss-up between my fellow Mochi staffers and Progressive Asian American Christians.

What was the biggest problem you solved?
How to accomplish personal goals that no one else is holding me accountable for: FIND SOMEONE to hold me accountable.

What was the funniest moment of your year, one that still makes it hard not to burst out laughing when you think about it?
Kiddo has a decent sense of comedic timing, so it was probably something he did or said.

What did you think about more than anything else?
How to make the changes we needed to make to move forward.

What topics did you most enjoy learning about?
All the amazing Asian American entrepreneurs out in the world!

What was the best gift you received?
My tablet and keyboard case, which became the mobile office that my mega gaming laptop just cannot be.

What was your favorite compliment that you received this year?
Other Asian Americans thanking me for talking about entrepreneurship from a perspective they could relate to.

What was your biggest break-through moment career-wise?
Deciding to lean into serving the Asian American community.

What was the most important lesson you learned in 2019?
The only way out is through.

Looking Forward

What do you want the overarching theme for your 2020 to be?
I am historically not great at the Word of the Year game, but I keep trying. This year my theme is commitment: to follow through on promises I make to myself instead of giving up on goals that seem hard and pretending I don’t care that much about them.

What do you want to see, discover, explore?
I would love to travel more. My major goal is to make it to PAACcon 2020 in Seattle. A small family vacation would also be great.

Who do you want to spend more time with in 2020?
Quality time with my spouse.

What skills do you want to learn, improve or master?
Writing fiction.

Which personal quality do you want to develop or strengthen?

What do you want your everyday life to be like?
Disciplined yet flexible. Intentional and mindful.

Which habits do you want to change, cultivate or get rid of?
I want to cut down on my phone use, track our household budget better, and of course, floss more. (This actually improved in 2019 after I got my water flosser!)

What do you want to achieve career-wise?
Pivot to offering more business education products/services and fewer (and better) one-to-one client projects. Build an audience for my creative work (writing, podcast, eventual novel).

How do you want to remember the year 2020 when you look back on it 10/20/50 years from now?
Apparently it’s my Jesus year, so let’s see a revolution!

What is your number one goal for 2020?
Finish a polished draft of my novel manuscript in time for the December PitMad.