10 Questions to Ask When Choosing a Long-term Partner

I spent most of my pre-married life wondering, “How will I know if someone is THE ONE?” Particularly after I did not, as was promised by my highly misguided youth group, marry my first boyfriend, or my second, or any number of subsequent beaus. (Thank you,...

Book Review: The Grace of Kings by Ken Liu

To compare Ken Liu’s The Grace of Kings with Game of Thrones would be so obvious as to be a little lazy on my part. Both are sprawling fantasy epics with dozens of major characters prone to dying with little fanfare. Both fantasy worlds have seven kingdoms with...

Please Just Be Normal

We had noodles for New Year’s, even though that’s technically a tradition for Chinese New Year. I’m not complaining–Dad makes really good beef noodle soup. “Hey guys,” I said about halfway through dinner. “When we go back to...

The American privilege of tidying up (or not)

This past Thanksgiving, my mom brought an old pair of slippers to wear around our house because Asians prefer not to wear outdoor shoes indoors. The pink fabric had faded to gray and there were deep grooves worn into the soles. As my parents were packing up to leave,...

Fitting In: Part 1

“Are you excited to finally be going back?” Eugene squeezed Artemis’s hand when she didn’t respond. “Hey, you awake?” “Oh, yeah, I guess. Excited, terrified, same thing.” “Why terrified? Taiwan is great. The food,...

No More Hiding

You would think it would be hard to forget that I’m not white. I’m a Chinese-American woman, born, raised and educated in the Midwest. I was one of maybe a dozen Asian students in my high school graduating class of 400. I didn’t have a single Asian(-American) teacher...