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To My Child After the Grown-ups Failed

Dear Baby, It’s taken me almost a week to write this post, partly because you haven’t slept particularly well since last Wednesday. (Are you regressing to the newborn stage in solidarity with our country setting itself back to 1952? Making Fire Monkey great again?!) But mostly because I have been …

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The Myth of Passion

I once got into a semi-heated (lukewarm?) debate with a guy I was dating, whom I shall call Bird Brain for his love of the ornithological, over the relative importance of passion vs. dedication in a relationship. He was on Team Passion while I knew, even then (when I understood …

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Great Expectations

I’m resurrecting and remixing this post from three years ago because the mind-blowing wisdom of it rings truer now than ever before in the new light of marriage and parenthood. Before 2011 I would say I was a very goal-oriented, moderately driven and perfectionistic person. What I wanted, I got, …

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The Organizational Beast-o-tron

By definition, organization is not a strong suit of the A-minus Mama. Sure, I love creating organizational schemes, but the execution is…usually somewhat lacking. (Just ask my long-suffering mother and bemused husband. And my students. And my coworkers. Sigh.) But the first two work weeks of 2016 have been the …

On Marriage

We’ve been married for a month, back from our honeymoon for about two weeks, and slowly getting back to normal (whatever that is). Since the wedding, several people have asked me variations of the same two questions: Was your wedding everything you dreamed of? Does it feel any different now …

A rather extreme example of bad impulse control

To break up the stream of reflective, somewhat emo posts about the end of school…I went skydiving yesterday! If you don’t already know, I do not like roller coasters. Hate is maybe a strong word, but I really do not enjoy them. I do not find the fluctuating G-forces fun, …

Goal Orientation

About 9 months ago I sat down and took a long hard look at my life because I was tired of floundering around aimlessly and not only getting nowhere but getting pretty beat up emotionally in the process. I realized that I had abandoned any semblance of goals for myself and in …

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Castillo San Felipe del Morro

El Morro and Castillo de San Cristobal are sort of the must-see destinations in Old San Juan, so we high-tailed it to El Morro after touring the Bacardi factory. If you’re not too deep into Spanish colonial history, it can be done in about an hour, hour and a half. There’s lots …

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Casa Bacardi Distillery Tour

After the first two days at Vieques and El Yunque we took a day off to tidy up the apartment, hang out at the beach, and generally decompress and get some much-needed rest. The following day we went to Casa Bacardi Distillery. First we took a bus to Old San Juan …